Today your to-do list feels never ending…
But instead of getting started with your day, you find yourself scrolling through social media liking, sharing, and saving all of the posts about the mental load that you face every day as a mom.
Your kids find you, wanting yet another snack. They ALWAYS seem to be hungry.
Without really knowing why, you feel frustrated. “Why do they need me to get it for them? They know where it is!”
Reluctantly you get up from the couch and go to the kitchen only to find that it is trashed. They must have found the snacks without you after all.
In a perfect world, you would have calmly told them to come clean up their mess, but today it’s just one more thing that YOU have to do.
Why can’t anyone else take responsibility?
Each moment brings with it new proof that you really do have to do it all, or nothing will get done.
And you start to spiral…
Feelings of discouragement, turn into feelings of failure…
The feelings of failure turn into feelings of resentment…
Then consumed by the mayhem that overwhelms both your mind and your home, you sit back down exhausted with “nothing to show for it.”
….and the cycle continues.
Unless it doesn’t have to.
You get to make a choice.
You get to choose that next step that will either leave you feeling discouraged and exhausted, or confident and purposeful.
First, take a moment to feel the feels. Sit with the thought that “you have to do it all,” and then make a decision to not let it consume you.
Instead, say a prayer and entertain the thought – I can handle this.
God has equipped you with everything you need for this moment. It’s time to respond with hope and confidence in His provision.
You may have a great to-do list that is made based on all of your ideals for your home and your family, but it won’t do you any good if you are not focusing on the right things, in the right order, at the right time.
You want to focus on the right things. This means that you are confident in your purpose and know what that means for you. You have discerned the direction you are taking in your life, and know what to say yes to and what to say no to.
You want to do those things in the right order. Even with the best of intentions, it can be pretty easy to be doing all of the right things, but in the wrong order. You want the actions that you take to be based on their priority level. If you had to choose to let your kids do a sport that would require games during church time vs. picking a different sport and keeping that time open for church, which would you choose? Will you prioritize your kids’ sports or God?
At the right time coincides with the right order. Sports may be a high priority for your family, but God comes first. The right time dictates the time that your family CAN commit to those sporting events.
This will allow you to take prompt action on the right things while also giving you the freedom to rest when you need to. Life becomes a bit more predictable, with less last minute rushing, and the things that matter most being taken care of first instead of as a second thought.
Sometimes, this can start to feel like a lot to keep track of, and you are having trouble staying accountable to those things that are higher priority but are easier to let slide – like prayer, self-care, making time to play with your kids, saving up for that family vacation, etc.
Fuel Your Faith Foundation is the tool that will help you define those goals, know your action plan, and see it through.
Instead of battling the mental load and your to-do list, you will be fueled by that deeper purpose and know exactly what you are going to do and why you are doing it.